FINDING MY STYLE..
Fashion, as I like to explain it, is a way a person expresses himself/herself using clothes and accessories. Now I’ve had quite a lot of trouble in this area of my life because not only am I not fashion-inclined but I also almost always have problems deciding exactly what I’m trying to express. “Who am I?”, “Is that who people see when they look at me?” are but a few of the questions that come to play before and after I choose my clothes.
Back home in Ghana I never really had an issue with style etc. mostly because most of my time was spent in the boarding house where we wore uniforms and were restricted to what kind of shoes and accessories we could wear .
The vacations weren’t much different for me either because the only time we (my family and I) went out was when we went to church on Saturdays. My other outings would be going to the market with my mum or running an errand at home, none of which required much dressing. Thus, my wardrobe was mainly made up of church clothes and anything comfortable for the house.
Moving to China was quite a sudden change because I now had to get clothes for lectures ( uniforms are under-appreciated y’all ) and the fact that I lost my luggage upon arrival ( another story for another day) didn’t make the transition any easier because then I had absolutely nothing to start with. So there I was, a girl whose need for style had always been about getting clothes for church, in a new environment where she needed different clothes for class, church, social outings and oh… don’t forget they had to be season-appropriate too…… Seeing other people dress well and look good in their own style kind of made me also develop an interest in creating my style too. I loved the challenge of finding and creating my own style although that did not come without setbacks.
Naturally, I love clothes that make me feel free and comfortable. Talk of long dresses/skirts that sweep the ground and flow with the wind, bola t-shirts and pullovers, leggings, long tops, shorts, shirts, jumpsuits and sometimes overcoats/jackets when necessary. I love rings and I’m crazy about heels….. I don’t like tight clothes or body fits mainly because they make me uncomfortable and I just don’t have the tummy needed to rock them. Until recently, I didn’t do jeans either, because they just didn’t look as good on me as they did on my girlfriends. The challenge then became choosing what complemented my figure and also reflected who I am as a person i.e an outward rep of the person within.
Knowing that I’m not the most fashionable person in the room, I always go for clothes that are beautiful enough, elegant enough, comfortable and sexy. There have, however, been a few occasions where my insecurities set in and comfort wasn’t just enough so I chose clothes that weren’t exactly comfortable in order to compensate for my insecurities.
I remember an instance where in my attempt to not appear boring or be over-looked, I chose an outfit that although was very beautiful, and complementing of my figure, was also rather quite revealing of my cleavage. I still went with it anyway and I sure did get comments and stares but deep down, I was uncomfortable. In my quest to be seen and recognized by a certain someone or people, I sacrificed my comfort. A few months back we held a ball and by the end of the evening, I couldn’t share most of the pictures because my cleavage was all over. Honestly, I didn’t set out to look like that and I was mortified when my pictures came out like that. I just couldn’t post them in good faith because I didn’t want the wrong attention. Although the most harm had probably already been done.
One of the things I’ve had to consider in this journey of finding my style is my faith. Fashion for me is all about expressing myself and since my faith is basically the foundation of who I am, finding my style is also about choosing clothes and accessories that not only make me feel and look good but also allow me to properly represent who I am and whose I am. My fashion journey is based off on choosing clothes or styles that make me confident as a 21st-century Christian girl and also allow me to comfortably honor God.
It is thru this journey that I came up with the topic for discussion Faith and Fashion. Fashion is ever-changing, trends come and go and in this virtual world, our outward representation matters a lot. That being said, I’m not lost on the fact that the topic of faith and fashion, if not approached carefully, could come off as being biased and judgmental. I hereby state that this topic/ mini-series isn’t to dictate how anyone should or shouldn’t dress. I am, however, hoping that we’ll be able to have an open conversation about our personal styles, share a few tips and encourage one another. To a few, adding faith to style equals “boring”, but I beg to differ. I think that Christians shouldn’t be restricted from pursuing fashion either as a career or lifestyle interest. I also do believe that a person’s faith does/should have a degree of influence on his/her style.
I, therefore, come to you again today, my honorable and learned readers, with another topic and a few questions for us to dissect and discuss. I believe that the issue of faith and fashion although very broad and dicey can be very simple. Below are some questions I have and I look forward to reading your thoughts and answers:
1. Do you think faith and fashion can be related in any way?
2. Does your personal style have anything to do with your faith?
3. Do you think a person’s faith should influence his/her style? Does yours?
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